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Vanessa is a visionary, leader and trailblazer known for her rawness, courage & wisdom.
Founder of Dancing Eros, co-founder of Celebrating Sexuality Festival and womens spoken word event Mother Tongue as well as viral online content her work continually creates culture, awakens new levels of consciousness and opens others up to their true expression and power.
She grants others permission to trust their instinctual wisdom, question ‘what is normal?’ and to shamelessly love and express all parts of themselves.
Wearing many hats as a writer, artist, mentor, speaker and business woman all her work centralises around the themes of empowerment, spirituality, sexuality, healing, intimacy, mental health, creativity and leadership.
A unique mix of epic spiritual powerhouse and regular aussie chick Vanessa's ultimate purpose is to share, express, create from her own truth and then allow that aliveness to activate in others.
"An inspiration, a born leader, a facilitator of change, and revolutionary"
A Bit Of My Story
As far back as I can remember I've been wildly creative.
As a little girl I was always dressing up, drawing, creating characters, making up poems, songs. performances and dances.
I was always pretty bossy (My sun sign is Aries) and had a clear as fuck vision about what worked and what didn't when it came to my creations.
I worked hard on them.
I remember vividly orchestrating an epic dance choreography to the little mermaids 'under the sea" in my lounge room with my sister and my friend Mabel Fu, The exact timing of the starfish' entry was pure artistry and was rehearsed again and again,..and don't even get my started on the 5ive and Spice Girls performance - that shit was next level.
I've also been writing online since I was 16.
My first blog was at hotmail live called "It's My Space Bitches - If you can't handle the heat get out of the kitchen" full of insightful downloads and rants about all kinds of pop culture teenage issues that my friends loved.
I was also very much a normal teenager with a regular suburban life.
I was pretty rebellious but got decent grades and had a good group of friends.
I had terrible, acne and braces and a lot of insecurities around not being one of the pretty girls yet my wild wisdom and confidence would emerge once I had a bit of alcohol in me,
I used to teach my girlfriends how to masturbate and the boys how to kiss at house parties while we were drunk on passion pop!
At 18 I read a quantum physics book that started to change everything for me.
That book absolutely blew my mind and opened up my whole consciousness to the true nature of reality and begun the first stages of my spiritual awakening.
Once I left school I scored a high level 9-5 corporate job in marketing through my business management teacher (i was killer at business) There I was all excited thinking I'd be schmoozing in the television and radio worlds before realising pretty quick I was working in and supporting industries I couldn't give two fucks about.
I have an extremely low tolerance for doing work that isn't soul aligned and I would come home every day crying and ranting so hard my parents were scared of me, I remember throwing a plate of spaghetti on the floor I was in so much distress lol.
I quit a few months in and ran off to to Africa to experience a completely different culture and learn drum and dance much to my parents terror,
Truthfully I've scared my parents a fair bit with all my alternative life choices but I am proud to say we have worked through A LOT together and have the most amazing relationship today. (Shout out to Ken & Barb you legends! (yes their real names!)
At 22 I had a psychosis or rather a profound spiritual/creative/sexual awakening if you look at it from another lens.
After studying a full time intensive transpersonal art therapy course which included A LOT of inner processes and ritual as well as doing ridiculous amounts of ecstatic dance and tantric breath work on the side I totally blew my whole system open and spent a year navigating through and out of the mental health system and piecing myself back together.
This was absolute undeniable beginning in my shamanic initiation and I believe the following 6 years were all me coming back from that experience.
Throughout that time I was told by doctors I was bipolar and needed to be on medication for the rest of my life.
I told them "Thanks, but no thanks"
I have always been extremely sensitive and do feel very very deeply, I was always going 'on a high' as a child and do have a rich emotional intensity. However although this can sometimes have its challenges for me this is one of my deepest gifts that I cherish immensely.
I continue to learn every day how to live fully in my truth and use the depth of my feelings for creation into the world rather than destruction of my self.
I believe mental illness is a result of a sick society that has lost its way and my story and experience is a testament to that.
I tried my hand at university but again only lasted a few months and spent most of my time skipping the bullshit boring psychology classes and reading books in the library about feminist performance art before dropping out and spending the next part of my twenties diving deep into the worlds of conscious sexuality, shamanism and creativity. Living in artsy BDSM communities in Berlin, Tantric islands in Thailand and doing all the workshops and all the things.
My interest in sex and art was fuelled by both my own insecurities as well as a natural fascination and curiosity with the edgy fringe topics of society (Scorpio rising whaddup!) and it led me into working in this field in the seduction/pickup world as well as private coaching and sessions and soon into creating my own events and offerings.
I went on to Co-found Mother Tongue the amazing spoken word evening for women with Fleassy Malay. Create Sex Camp (now celebrating sexuality) an amazing sexuality festival in Melbourne and birth Dancing Eros - an epic erotic feminine initiation into the archetypes that is still rocking along.
All of these offerings have been huge personally and professionally as is the path of an entrepenuer for me and have given me a depth of experience around what it takes to create something from nothing.
I have the most phenomenal stories and memories from this time, I made heaps of money doing what I loved and was one of the first people using their 'vulnerable shares' to sell their shit. I reckon I built my whole businesses on vulnerable sharing ad absolutely just following what felt good.
Dancing Eros particularly has been HUGE and has absolutely initiated me into the feminine, the masculine and being a priestess, a woman, a friend and a leader.
I also burnt myself out big time,
I made so many mistakes and was trying to manage so much while still not really having my own shit together.
I am extremely intimate with the gifts and shadows of being a leader, running your own business and having a public profile and after about 5 years into my entrepreneurial journey those shadows got fucking real.
Financially, personally, spiritually I was absolutely fucked and had completely lost my way.
I had a major breakdown and fell fucking hard.
Hello Saturn Return.
Since then it's been a big healing journey of few years of stepping the fuck back and being in recovery, soul searching, healing and putting back the pieces of myself and what's really important, living with my parents, cleaning up all the mess i'd created, mending relationships, gathering all the lessons I've learned along the way to now be returning again at 31 to what is absolutely natural for me and brings me great joy.
To Share, Express and Create.