If you want to be a leader you need to get very familiar with speaking these words.
"...I fucked up. I apologise."
Because when you are in more influential position of power you also open yourself to increasing levels of vulnerability and exposure of ALL your fuck ups and flaws.
When you are a leader, your choices and ways of being now affect more than just your close inner circle of friends.
Not only does your partner see all your issues and shit up close and personal, but everyone on facebook does too!
Your decisions and actions are public opinion that is talked about in peoples spare time - you open yourself to reflections, projections and 'feedback' whether you like it or.
You have taken the stage, and claimed a new level of power and influence that means others are now affected by the decisions YOU make - their incomes, their weekend plans, their dreams, their healing.
If you want to be a leader your community, your employees, your colleagues, your country they are seeing it all baby - and you have nowhere to hide.
If you want to be a leader realise the more people that are positively influenced by your brilliance and gifts, the more who are also going affected by your personal shit. Your circle of influence will expose and shine a big fat amplifying light on all that you are whether you like it or not. The bigger that circle, the brighter the light.
For many this responsibility is just too fucking scary, so we don't step up, the pressure and exposure is just too great.
But If even after you've acknowledged all that, and your message and vision still burns strongly inside of you. There is one thing that may ease up that pressure a little, something that may be holding you back from putting yourself out there..something damaging and disempowering, that affects us all....
The biggest bullshit illusions that I believe unconsciously infiltrates all of society is that our leaders or teachers need to be perfect, flawless and impeccable gods or goddesses who never make a mistake.
If you want to be a leader do not for a second think you are NOT going to fuck up royally - you cannot avoid it - like any relationship in life you undeniably WILL.We can NEVER really separate the personal and professional – when we try, we keep each other in this false pretentious cycle of perfection, projection, and suppression of our humanness. Take a deep breath and dare to be real - Cry in your board meeting – wail in front of your employees – admit all your vulnerabilities and fears for your whole community to see, speak the truth because they can all feel it anyway. Expose your budgets and your plans, put your cards on the table, your heart on your sleeve.
THIS IS HOW YOU LEAD.
What I believe is the only real responsibility we have as leaders is to be HONEST about where we are at and be completely vulnerable, humble and transparent in the humanness of who we are.If you want to be a leader, drop the illusion that you now have to get everything right, drop illusion that are now exempt from learning, that now you must be perfect and complete in order to 'teach' Actually the second you think that, you have stopped growing, stopped evolving and actually lost your right in that moment to lead a thing!
The most important thing we need as a leader is an ability to be fucking real, and authentic, and OWN OUR MISTAKES.To recognise and be willing to name in any moment that we have misjudged a situation, that our flaw has manifested itself and that we are growing just like everyone else and this is just another learning for everyone involved. This is how we become truly powerful, inspirational and transformational in how we can call ourself authentic leaders.
THIS IS THE ONLY WAY TO RESPONSIBLY WIELD POWER.
To try hard to not make mistakes is totally futile, but to fully and humbly 100 percent own our humanity and vulnerability as a leader is where true power lives.
As your circle of influence grows and your ability to positively influence more people increases, so do the opportunities for you to majorly fuck up – and you know what baby its ALL GOOD.
Just own it, apologise, drop the story of being a god and be a fucking human and fall apart, recognise we are all just figuring it out and everything is fucking perfect.
We are all just working that shit out as we go and your honesty and vulnerability will inspire the humanity in others too.